“Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’ 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? 6 So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.” Matthew 19:4-6
Gender confusion is a tough topic to get into. It’s emotionally charged. I’ve avoided it for a long time, because I simply wasn’t sure how I wanted to go about it.
I also want to state up front that I am not a homophobe, nor do I hate people who are homosexual. I am a Christian and believe that the way to respond to everyone is with love and Biblical truth. I’m also a big fan of facts. As one of my management classes drilled into me to remember to keep the conversation about what is right, not who is right. That means keep to the facts!
A January, 2020 article in The London Daily Mail Online was eye opening and motivated me to finally write about the topic.
Why did the NHS let me change sex? is about Keira Bell, a 23-year old woman who started sex reassignment as when she was 16. She went to the Tavistock Clinic in North London, because she wanted to be a boy. She was prescribed hormone blockers after merely three one-hour sessions with a therapist. She was later started on testosterone treatments to give her a more masculine appearance. Three years ago, her breasts were removed.
Now three years into it, she realized she made a mistake and doesn’t want to be a man. She calls it an “impossible quest” and wants to reverse the process. She is also suing Tailstock’s Gender Identity Service. She calls the procedure she’s been undergoing a “blight” on her life.
Her statement: “I don’t believe children and young people can consent to the use of powerful, experimental hormone drugs like I did. Hormone-changing drugs and surgery do not work for everyone, and it certainly should not be offered to someone under 18.”
Here is a brief sketch of how things came to be.
She was a tomboy and liked to rough around. She didn’t like skirts, and only wore a dress under duress to be a bridesmaid. She wore trousers to school although most girls wore skirts. This made her the odd one out, and she had no friends, male or female.
Her mother asked her if she was a lesbian at age 14. She answered no. Her mother then asked if she wanted to be a boy. Again no.
She told the Daily Mail reporter, “The idea was disgusting to me. Wanting to change sex was not glorified as it is now. It was still relatively unknown. Yet the idea stuck in my mind and it didn’t go away.”
An idea not her own was this planted by her mother on an immature, 14-year old mind.
As a result of bullying at school for being different about her clothing, she started seeing a therapist. She explained that she believed that she was not being listened to at school, because she’s a girl. Her young mind concluded that her life would be better as a man.
She did not identify as a male! She just wanted to be listened to and taken seriously instead of being ignored or bullied! She saw sex change as a way of accomplishing that.
A good therapist would’ve counseled her for the issues she faced. The one she got – a therapist at a gender identity service – decided that sex reassignment was the answer after only three hours!
When all you choose to carry is a hammer, everything starts looking like a nail. Considering how much pressure there is from different parts of society, I can’t help suspecting that the situation was more about having an agenda than paying attention to the patient.
Keira also tells how no one told her about the side affects of hormone blockers. She had hot flashes, sleep problems, diminished sex drive, and she had to start taking calcium pills to address her bones weakening.
She endured this for a year before they started testosterone treatments. All the while she battled frustration at not turning immediately into a boy. Again, at 16, she simply didn’t have the maturity to understand and ask. Additionally, no one bothered to explain. Keira says herself that she wasn’t thinking straight.
No one was helping her think about it either. When she finally went in to have her breasts removed, the operation was over quickly. No one stopped to ask if she was sure she wanted this irreversibly procedure.
Again, from the article:
‘I don’t know if I will ever really look like a woman again,’ she admits. ‘I feel I was a guinea pig at the Tavistock, and I don’t think anyone knows what will happen to my body in the future.’ Even the question of whether she will be able to have children is in doubt.
Those who support her court battle say that the number of young people regretting a sex change is on the rise. Although the article doesn’t have any citation to support this, it seems to be at least a reasonable assumption, given what we learn of Keira’s experience.
Part Two is next, which shares another news article of gender assignment regrets for very different reasons.