4 And He answered and said to them, “Have you not read that He who made[a] them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’[b] 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’?[c] 6 So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.” Matthew 19:4-6
This is complicated, so I’ll do it in bullet points.
- Dawn and Michael Marano were wed in 1994 and lived in an apartment.
- Audria Garcia lived downstairs with her boyfriend until they broke up.
- The Maranos befriended her, letting her move in with them.
- They started having threesomes.
- Dawn couldn’t have kids, but Audria could.
- The three agreed that Michael would get Audria pregnant, and all three would raise the child equally.
When you do things wrong, they tend to not work out very well. Sure enough, the ladies decided they didn’t really need a father figure after 18 months, became a couple and moved out. Michael sued for custody and Dawn sued for divorce.
Michael and Audria agreed to joint custody. Dawn, who neither gave birth to nor adopted the boy, had no legal rights. This being ‘merica, she sued anyway. You see, not having parental rights, she could only see the boy with permission from either biological parent.
And she was still living with Audria.
The judge ended up granting her equal custody with the other two, citing precedent that either non-biological or adoptive parents may seek custody if they had a prior relationship with the child.
So now both ladies are happy, but Michael is ticked and is suing again.
God knows us best. He created us. And while a tripod is the most stable structure one can build, a triad of people is the most unstable, resulting in constantly shifting alliances and turmoil.
Playwright Jean-Paul Sartre wrote the famous play No Exit, based on the very concept of a triad relationship. No Exit is Sartre’s version of hell; one man and two woman (apropos, no?) are locked in a very nice room for eternity; a situation only a hard-core Mormon might love.
Building on that, not doing what God tells us is good and right also ends up being hell. I’ve said before that Creation is somewhat akin to God being a Factory that produces a product called “people.” It comes with a manual called “The Bible.” It highlights how to properly operate the gadget for maximum performance and pleasure. It also provides for misuse and “repair” when broken.
If we operate ourselves and the world outside of our design parameters, we can expect to have a rough time. The more we misuse ourselves and others, the worse it gets until we find ourselves in hell on earth. Keep it up long enough, and we are past repair, consigned permanently to the real hell.
Decisions stick. Things done cannot be undone. Sometimes the best you can hope for is to find yourself in a shallow hole. Sometimes we try to dig our way out, which never works. Dig long enough, and I promise you it isn’t China you’ll find.
We like what we like. We think we know best, but history is nothing if not one long lesson-not-learned.
Give yourself up to God and His ways. Operate the way He lovingly intended for you. Seek repair/forgiveness for misuse. And always, always, always…