But the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Do not fear therefore; you are of more value than many sparrows. Luke 12:7
I recently found it necessary to verbally slap a friend upside her pretty, little head. You see, she’s living in fear. Mind you, she’s done some very brave things, battled some very real demons, but she’s gone timid as of late, and, well, it has to do with relationships and age. That’s where we all fall down, right?
We all get scared when it comes to putting ourselves out there, whether it’s looking for love or a job. Job interviews give us the cold sweats. Finding ourselves in the vicinity of a cute guy or girls give us a case of the heminah-heminahs.
That’s not how God intends us to live! Paul’s letter to Philemon is about doing the right things in life, both as regards God and people:
Having confidence in your obedience, I write to you, knowing that you will do even more than I say. Philemon 1:21
Confidence! That’s how we need to live; confidently, fearlessly!
Job interviews: do you realize you are in the driver’s seat? The person interviewing you gets paid to make a tough, very expensive decision in hiring someone. But your perfect love can cast out fear! You are there to help that person! Be nice, be sympathetic, be helpful. Don’t be fearful! And remember you are interviewing them too! You BOTH need to make a good decision. If the interviewer isn’t your cup of tea, you might not want to work for him or her. Taking the job, even if offered, might be a bad idea!
Perfect love casts out fear. Love the other person, recognize their situation, and be the job candidate God would want you to be – your very best self!
Relationships. Hoo boy! Here we go. Do you understand that most everyone is just as afraid and nervous as you? Are you checking someone out? Maybe they are checking you out too. But both scared, little mice scurry along, too afraid to take a chance.
OK, you might make a fool of yourself. It can happen. But you’ll never see that person again anyway, so who really cares?
They might be nice and still say no, and that’s OK.
They might say yes. From there, maybe things will work out, maybe not.
Example: MANY years ago I had a gym membership and swam a one mile workout in the lap pool. Adjacent to that was a hot tub. So I’d do my mile and then relax in the tub. Once evening a nice young lady was in there too. We chatted. No ring. I asked her out. Well, she was married. The ring was off so she wouldn’t lose it. I could’ve felt foolish, but why? I apologized. She said no need. Before she left, she thanked me! It was nice to know she was attractive!
Love casts out fear. I was nice. She was nice. We both won that evening. She got a great compliment. I got a no that would’ve been a yes if she was single. We both went home feeling good.
Believe it or not, I did that one or two other times too. Did I feel foolish? Aw, heck no! It was kinda funny every time, and she always left feeling desirable.
Love doesn’t have to be romantic and sexy. Love can be as simple as being nice to people. It can be as simple as, “Hey, I’m looking for someone, and you seem nice. How about we spend some time?” For all you know, they wish they had the courage to do that.
Live fearlessly, my friends! Above are merely two examples to get you to a bigger idea – have confidence. If you don’t’ have it, act like it. The mind tends to follow the body. Feeling down? Smile. Keep smiling. Your mood will improve.
In other words – Fake It Till You Make It! Go forward with God’s peace in you. Act like He’s got your back, because He does. If you stumble, He’ll help you back up. You will find more success than failure!