Hate and Love

Matthew 5:44

But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you,

John 3:20

For everyone practicing evil hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his deeds should be exposed.

I recently read two different blog entries from different sources. One of them asked readers to comment; he was looking for ideas on defining and dealing with it.

I taught communications at a small Catholic college for a year, and I started remembering some of the things from that class. Let’s start with the opening question regarding hate:

“What is the opposite of hate?”

You said “love,” of course. Sounds about right, but you’re wrong.  The opposite of hate is nothing.  Love and hate are the polar extremes on the sliding scale of “Caring.”  You don’t love or hate anything or anyone without caring about them in some fashion.

Divorce produces some of the bitterest hatred and animosity of any situation. Why?  Because they loved so much, cared so much at the start.  They still care through the divorce and maybe the rest of their lives.  It can last that long and be as cruel.

If someone hates you, they care. Maybe there was never affection involved, but you likely threatened SOMETHING they love and care for deeply.  It may be themselves, a strong, sincere belief, a choice they know is wrong but will maintain out of…something.  Spite?  Selfishness?  That’s what John 3:20 is about.

Mathew 5:44 says we should always care about people the right way, in love. There are those who care about us, but in the wrong way.  We should show them how to care about others in the right way.  Or maybe care about the right things in the first place.

Do you hate? You should figure out why.  You should figure out if you should care so much.  Then find a way to care the right way about the right things.

And that brings us back to…love. Sweet, sweet love.  Father to us; us to everyone else.

7 thoughts on “Hate and Love

  1. Thanks for your help in shifting my perspective bro jeff. I care about my sisters soul. Externals matter less than internals. Sometimes the best psychologists are non professionals

  2. Pingback: Enemies | Jeffrey H. King's Blog

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