Losing, But Not Disillusioned

“Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God;”   Philippians 4:6

What do you do when you lose? Do you shrug it off?  Stew for days?  Did your favorite team lose?  Did someone close get bad news on their health?

On handling losing/disappointment; first make sure you really SHOULD care. A friend has a saying: Not My Circus; Not My Monkeys.  (https://jeffreyhking.wordpress.com/2016/02/02/not-my-circus-not-my-monkeys/)

When it really matters, the same saying applies…kind of. So many things are out my control, I often forget just how long that list is.  For example, I have a daughter who, after a Christian upbringing, announced to us rather acidly that she no longer believes in that crap.  Then she start living with a fairly militant atheist.  We live a full day’s drive apart, so it isn’t like we can talk to her face to face very easily.

Even when we did drive up for a visit and tried to raise the subject, what a violent reaction! She’s a grown woman, out of college, with  good job.  Despite the fact that she’s our daughter, the fact that we “lost” this round to Satan is out of our control.  I still think about how we can try to broach the subject again sometime, but the first thing to recognize is “Not My Circus…”

PRAYER should be the first resort, not the last. I can’t ground her, spank her (well, I could, but…), flip a switch somewhere.  Pray first.  Pray for God to give her ears to hear His call to return.  Pray that her…boyfriend…will hear that call too.  Pray that God directs our next attempt to talk to her about this so we meet with a less violent response.

 Continue earnestly in prayer, being vigilant in it with thanksgiving; meanwhile praying also for us, that God would open to us a door for the word, to speak the mystery of Christ, for which I am also in chains, that I may make it manifest, as I ought to speak.”  Colossians 4:2-14

Peter was in prison, fearing for his life. What was the first order of business?  Not a jail break.  Not a care package.  The first order of business was prayer!  And the prayer request was not an open door for Peter, but for God’s Word.  Collections for Peter came later, but prayer was the option of first resort, not last.

Prayer; the first response, no matter the magnitude of the loss, no matter how close to your soul. When you or a loved one is the loser, don’t be disillusioned.  Pray for the loss/lost, pray for direction on how to play a part in His plan to turn it into a win.

My thanks to Morning Mojo for inspiring this article. Please give her site a visit!  morningmojoblog.wordpress.com

2 thoughts on “Losing, But Not Disillusioned

  1. I so needed this! Sometimes I just rant at God rather than praying my way through difficult circumstances. There are so many things out of our control on a daily basis, and as a quadriplegic, the same applies. Before my injury, I would put on my suit, gather all my information, and march down to the person or institution that needed to be straightened out. Not so much anymore! It’s a great lesson for me in prayer.

    • Terri! So glad to see you’re on line! And this is a much harder lesson to learn AND RETAIN than the writing of this piece. I miss the mark ALL THE TIME! I think I write these articles more to myself than anyone! 🙂 So if the hands don’t work and another pair isn’t available, well the facility is not your circus and the help aren’t your monkeys. You can’t rope in either so, enjoy a daydream, some TV if you have means, and know God is helping you. Especially when you don’t feel as though He is.

      In my job, people sometimes stand me up or something else happens, and I find myself getting into something very good BECAUSE of the disaster! Today I just learned of a pretty big deal that the customer suddenly slammed the brakes on. What? Me worry? I now have nothing planned for the next two weeks. And I KNOW something will come up – even if it’s staying home and having extra time with Julie.

      Ride the wave, girl! You can’t change its direction!! With love & prayers, in Christ, Jeff

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